Friday, December 12, 2008

back in the chocolate

no, not that cycle, the love cycle.

i don't know if this happens to anyone else, but the hubs and i go through cycles. i always love him, that goes without saying. he is my best friend and has been since i was 15. but that feeling of being IN love, that feeling where you want to be near them as much as possible (and i'm not talking just for the deed), where you delight, yes delight in them like you did when you were dating, or just get that tingly feeling when you look at them, that, for me, goes in cycles.

that probably sounds awful, like i don't delight in him or get tingly on a regular basis. but let's face it, when you've been married for 16 years and both work full time, travel for your jobs, have two kids, four animals and all the other life stuff, the tingly moments don't always get top priority. but sometimes, sometimes i just get swept away all over again.

for the most part we are on the same page though one of us might be a paragraph or two behind. but other times we are completely in sync. over the last five years or so this happens more and more often.

a couple of years ago i posted about this i think, and compared us to neapolitan ice cream. sometimes it's the strawberry (my least favorite flavor, but it's still ice cream and i love ice cream), then there's vanilla, also, still loving the ice cream but, it's vanilla=boring, and then there is the chocolate, luscious and yummy and tasty and my favorite.

and this week it wasn't any one thing that realigned the planets or put us back in the chocolate, it just is. maybe it's the pull of this full moon, the biggest moon of the year? i don't know.

today after one of the most boring and strained office christmas parties on the planet i kidnapped the hubs from his office w/ the intent of doing some christmas shopping. what did we do instead? came home and snuggled under the covers until it was time to pick the kids up from daycare. we laughed. we talked. i just wanted to climb inside him.


Hotch Potchery said...

Oh. My. God. I swear we are the semi-same person. Tonight we are in complete sync, and if people didn't know. ..3rd date, not 20 years.

Sherendipity said...

awesome, awesome, awesome.

justsomethoughts... said...

what a great post.
i did love the line "same page though one of us might be a paragraph or two behind". i'll have to use that at some point.
really good post.

Not Your Aunt Bea said...

Awesome. Totally get it too. Except my hubs wanted to do something romantic and I just wanted to be able to breathe through my nose.

Astarte said...

DH and I were just talking yesterday about how sometimes we feel like we don't know each other, and how sorry we both are about when that happens. You're right - with kids and work and pets and various expectations/obligations, it gets hard to feel tingly. I think that's going to be my New Year's resolution, or one of them, anyway - to be tingly.

creative kerfuffle said...

hotch--the in sync moments make everything else worthwhile.

shere--did you think it was awesome? ; )

just--use away. glad you liked it.

bea--breathing is always a good thing, and quite helpful.

astarte--i'm right there w/ you. i think sometimes we forget that being married (happily) does take work and if often gets put on the back burner.

Kristin.... said...

OMG yes that is such a good way of describing it.
Marriage is almost like a job and if you don't work at it, it fails.

Right now, I'm in vanilla and my husband is too dumb to notice.