Sunday, March 15, 2009

i have no title

i got out of my pajamas yesterday long enough to take the girl out yarn shopping. she is now crocheting a blanket.

the hubs is eyeballing a $150 coffee maker on qvc.

it has been raining here since friday. the yard is flooded. we might have to build an ark.

i haven't been on facebook in several days. it seems like too much of a shiny happy place to announce my grandma is dead.

we are leaving for wv in the morning. we are the last to go. my sister and her family left friday; my parents left yesterday after they delivered my grandma's remains to my aunt's house. my aunt and uncle and the remains are leaving today as are my bro and his family.

we have not all gotten together as a family yet. i find this odd. i have never been through a death were there was a cremation. there will be no viewing, obviously. since we will all be staying in different places in wv i assume there will be no all family get together. i find this odd.

when the hubs' mom died most all of the family stayed together at his aunt's house. while it was a devastating time, it also was comforting, to me at least, to all be together. sharing stories of his mom; sharing in our grief.

today i've made homemade scalloped potatoes and some bread pudding (i got the idea from bea). we'll see how comforting they are.

the hubs has been incredible during this whole thing. supportive, comforting. i don't even want to think of what life would be without him.

i may or may not be able to blog over the next few days. i did try to make it around to all of your blogs today and read/comment. you have all been so incredibly wonderful. thank you. and thank you to my sweet friend trish who called me and talked for a long time without being nice and comforting : )

for whatever reason i find that, the words people say to you to make you feel better, very hard to hear face to face.

11 comments:

Not Your Aunt Bea said...

The death and loss of a loved one is hard. It will get easier. When? I don't know. I still think of the grandparents I lost last year. It will be awhile before you feel close to normal.

I am glad you are with the ones you love the most and the ones you love the most- your husband and kids. In the face of what is going on with your family, they will be the ones that will help you get through this.

And a little stress baking and eating doesn't hurt. Sending comfort and tranquility your way.

only a movie said...

Good luck. So glad your hubby is so comforting. Will be thinking of you.
E

Anonymous said...

I'm so sorry, I hope your trip goes OK and that everyone is on their best behavior. It sucks, I hope you and your family can comfort each other. Tracy

Kristin.... said...

I'll be thinking of you. Email if you need me. I'm here.

Antoinette Meaterson said...

The way things sound, it's probably "safer?" if you don't all get together. Hang out with your fam...they love you dearly and want to help you out right now.

Good luck hun, and don't worry about us. We'll be here whenever you get back!!

Ali said...

I'm sorry for your loss. I recently lost a grandfather. There is nothing to say really, is there?
I hope it all goes ok and family aren't too hard to deal with.

Hotch Potchery said...

I hope your trip to WV goes as well as it can. Be safe.

suby said...

I just caught up to your blog and saw your news. I'm so sorry. We'll be thinking about you.

Astarte said...

I agree - hearing these things face-to-face is a lot harder.

DH's grandmother was donated to science, and then cremated, and there was no service. For my nephew, there was a (terrible) viewing and then a service, but he's not been scattered anywhere, so there's nowhere for anyone to go to 'visit' him, which I don't like. I think there there's no real protocol for these things, and it's unfortunate because it leaves people feeling adrift. With a regular burial, there's ceremony and closure, but otherwise, it's all kind of ambiguous.

Sherendipity said...

Alright, no funeral talk from me. I added you on facebook, finally!! At least, I *hope* it was you, because if not, I may have just made friends with a total stranger and that would be weirder than that one time that I stopped on the side of the road to make out with a large wooden beaver.
What?

broad minded said...

miss you. hope WV went as well as can be expected.