.....my adult daughter ever sends me an email telling me she and her family won't be coming to my house any more because the environment is toxic but that i can still visit my grandkids at her house, i would be on the phone calling her in a heartbeat.
......my granddaughter had mono and i knew she was missing her much-anticipated class trip this week i'd be calling her.
.......my grandson had just won 7 awards at an out-of-state-karate tournament i'd be calling him and not just writing way to go or something on his facebook.
don't get me wrong, i had a great time this weekend with the girl. friday night she and my SIL and i went to the movies and saw bounty hunter. saturday the girl and i went to the mall (which i loathe but know she loves) and had mexican food for dinner. the girl picked at her food. i asked if she didn't like it and she said she likes tacos at home but in general doesn't like mexican food. i asked why she didn't say so, we could have gone somewhere else. she said she knew i liked it and sometimes you make sacrifices for people you love. (yeah, WOW). sunday we took the dogs for their first visit to the dog park. they hated it. they were the biggest dogs there and yet they acted like big ole' chickens, not leaving our side for a minute. they were shy. they didn't want to interact w/ the other dogs. (i pointed out they were much like the girl in middle school, she just looked at me but didn't deny it). then we watched everyone's fine (w/ drew barrymore and robert de niro) which was totally depressing. the hubs and the boy got home around dinner time and then we started falling back into our normal patterns.
but always underneath, and especially when i go to sleep, there are these thoughts about my parents. i wish i could borrow someones parent and tell them my story and have them tell me if i'm crazy or over reacting or wrong. years ago, when i was very close to one of my aunts, i told her about what happened w/ my dad. she was sick, literally. she was astounded that my mom did nothing. and yet, after that, we drifted a part and she continued and solidified her close relationship w/ my mom. they talk every day. this same aunt used to be very close to the girl and yet she drifted from her as well. perhaps there is something else, but if you just look at things the way they happened, my aunt turned her back on us, despite everything she knew.