tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14290006.post8233911893347977224..comments2023-10-17T09:01:45.081-05:00Comments on Creative Kerfuffle: sibling angstcreative kerfufflehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08645362903422740070noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14290006.post-89991654127560933402009-01-14T08:31:00.000-05:002009-01-14T08:31:00.000-05:00I don't have any siblings, and the sheer amount of...I don't have any siblings, and the sheer amount of angst that their fighting causes me is more than I was expecting. I can't stand it! They're so *mean* to each other! If they would just have a fight and get it over with, fine, but the constant sniping and silent treatment from Josie towards Patrick - she thinks she's better than he is, I guess - makes me want to keeellll them.Astartehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07337583910910454897noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14290006.post-27621432369220587062009-01-12T11:02:00.000-05:002009-01-12T11:02:00.000-05:00tracy--i do think the stuck together thing (and co...tracy--i do think the stuck together thing (and competing for parental attention) figures in to it. after all, it's not like you CHOOSE your siblings. <BR/><BR/>broad--i'm the oldest too and i also believe birth order plays a part in it. i guess if they can only be close during one time i want them to be close as adults.creative kerfufflehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08645362903422740070noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14290006.post-18985272507377545502009-01-12T09:48:00.000-05:002009-01-12T09:48:00.000-05:00i think it is also a part of growing up and separa...i think it is also a part of growing up and separating yourself from your family. i am a big believer in birth order and how that affects your personality too. like the girl i am the oldest and i was extremely bossy. i guess that doesn't come as a surprise. but i think that being a woman and being opinionated and not afraid to speak up (something i have gotten better about with age) is a good thing b/c too often women aren't heard. so go girl!<BR/><BR/>and hotch is right, talking about how crazy your parents are is a GREAT way to bond. it was what my brother and i do all the time. funny thing is, we were close growing up, but our lives have taken such different directions we aren't any more. so maybe be thankful if they aren't close as kids, maybe that means they will be as adults.broad mindedhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10134715899154851051noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14290006.post-61637877902582455442009-01-12T09:41:00.000-05:002009-01-12T09:41:00.000-05:00I think it has to do with the fact that most sibli...I think it has to do with the fact that most siblings see themselves as rivals for their parents attention, but maybe not consciously so it tends to come out in bickering and annoying crap. That is just my lame theory, maybe it is just because they are stuck together so much you just end up getting on each others nerves.Pennyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00648049238771250699noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14290006.post-37193312639136006272009-01-11T21:50:00.000-05:002009-01-11T21:50:00.000-05:00hotch--i literally laughed out loud--yeah, the hub...hotch--i literally laughed out loud--yeah, the hubs and i should totally flake out to bring the kids closer. price.less. sadly i have no doubt once he kicks the bucket it will stress me out and trigger the alzheimers i'm convinced i'll have (one gma had it, the other is senile) so they can bond over that. and, this also is part of what brought my bro and i closer..bitching over our family.<BR/><BR/>just--you're probably right, we have to grow up to appreciate our sibs.<BR/><BR/>ib--it is crazy. i guess i'm just curious as to WHY.creative kerfufflehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08645362903422740070noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14290006.post-69614543355010343952009-01-11T21:33:00.000-05:002009-01-11T21:33:00.000-05:00Who knows why they do it, they just do. I fought l...Who knows why they do it, they just do. I fought like CRAZY with my brother...and my sisters, now that I think about it...<BR/><BR/>IBIBhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10808169402614328166noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14290006.post-79890545861689187472009-01-11T21:24:00.000-05:002009-01-11T21:24:00.000-05:00i believe, that more often than not, the closeness...i believe, that more often than not, the closeness comes later on in life. my brother and i fought like animals. actually, i think it was worse than most animals i know of. now we are very close. but there were times that i actually remember thinking to myself "if i catch him, i'm gonna kill him".justsomethoughts...https://www.blogger.com/profile/05778254901832542234noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14290006.post-7630242169736984732009-01-11T21:01:00.000-05:002009-01-11T21:01:00.000-05:00Yeah. I don't know why brothers and sisters fight...Yeah. I don't know why brothers and sisters fight the way they do. My kids certainly did, and do now, but they are very close as well. <BR/><BR/>My sister and I are 7 years apart, I moved out when she was 11. It very well could have been that we were Thanksgiving and Christmas sisters, but because our parents are so hideous, we bonded tightly so we would have a "person". <BR/><BR/>So, if you really have no ideas, then you could lose your shit in a few years (hubs probably should too), and they could spend lots of time talking about you both and figuring out what to do with you. That will help ensure their closeness. I mean, if it is really important to you.Hotch Potcheryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13205620637311970766noreply@blogger.com