tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14290006.post5078567991720317505..comments2023-10-17T09:01:45.081-05:00Comments on Creative Kerfuffle: the plight of romaniacreative kerfufflehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08645362903422740070noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14290006.post-58201309119970013192009-01-17T00:30:00.000-05:002009-01-17T00:30:00.000-05:00broad--i've done that before, said i'd take someth...broad--i've done that before, said i'd take something away and then didn't and in the last few years i really have tried to become more consistent w/ the kids. wow, you had a computer in your house? i didn't even have a computer at college. i thought i was cool because i had an electric typewriter.<BR/><BR/>astarte--part of me says if we have to do this i'm glad it's now instead of later, in high school. and the lying thing really kills me the most.<BR/><BR/>tonie--i totally would have helped you w/ the art project. i heart art. and, depending on what happens at school we don't punish either. we've never had problems w/ the girl but w/ the boy? yeah. but sometimes he gets called out for little things and he doesn't get in trouble from us for those. but big stuff? yeah, he gets punished for.creative kerfufflehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08645362903422740070noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14290006.post-12758829175800863132009-01-16T22:03:00.000-05:002009-01-16T22:03:00.000-05:00My mom only let me skate by on something like this...My mom only let me skate by on something like this once. I was failing ART in 8th grade. I have no creative ability whatsoever, and my final project was a HUGE portion of suck, so I didn't want to turn it in. It was basically a recap of everything we learned...and one of those was box drawings...You know, where you put a grid on it and have to draw it box by box to look the same....She drew some of the stuff for me and then let me trace the exact one.<BR/><BR/>Other than that she left us alone to sink or swim on our own, and my sister and I are better people for it.<BR/><BR/>The other thing she always did for us was if we got punished at school there weren't any repercussions at home. It was embarrassing enough getting in trouble in front of your friends so she left us alone.<BR/><BR/>The Girl will learn from this...you bet. Sorry it's been such a tough week!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14290006.post-36841012540657265732009-01-16T20:13:00.000-05:002009-01-16T20:13:00.000-05:00OH man this toddler stage is hard, I don't want to...OH man this toddler stage is hard, I don't want to hear it just gets harder...<BR/><BR/>Ack, that sounds stressful, I hope all is well and you guys can have a nice (long?) weekend!Pennyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00648049238771250699noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14290006.post-88162326474488477032009-01-16T19:48:00.000-05:002009-01-16T19:48:00.000-05:00No, you definitely can't let her stay home and fin...No, you definitely can't let her stay home and finish it. She made her bed (or in this case, didn't make it), and now she has to lie in it. I think it's important to let them feel some of their own self-created suffering. Even if we suffer more than they do.<BR/><BR/>I agree that the lying is the worst thing. I am always *astounded* when one of the kids lies to me about something other than cleaning their rooms. It's hurtful, and stupid, and it lingers like nothing else.Astartehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07337583910910454897noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14290006.post-26761215650324927512009-01-16T10:09:00.000-05:002009-01-16T10:09:00.000-05:00double ditto on you doing the right thing. and yea...double ditto on you doing the right thing. and yeah i probably would have threaten to yank the party too although i dont' know if i could have gone through with it.<BR/><BR/>if it makes you feel better, i remember a term paper in high school, and while i had done it, i waited until the night before it was due to type it all up on my mom's commodore 64. yes i am old. i typed it, was ready to print and something happened and it was lost. just gone. i pitched a minor hissy fit and my now-insane mother, god bless her, stayed up and retyped it for me (i think on a type writer, but I don't remember). anyway, my fault for waiting until the last minute, although in my defense, that was a major computer malfunction involved too.<BR/><BR/>anyway. you done good. hopefully the girl will learn from this.broad mindedhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10134715899154851051noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14290006.post-45864877144639417202009-01-15T21:32:00.000-05:002009-01-15T21:32:00.000-05:00kay-kay--thanks. this is one thing i love about bl...kay-kay--thanks. this is one thing i love about blogging, the reinforcement you get from friends : ) i think she's learned her lesson. and honestly? i don't think it was about testing the limits i just really think she didn't want to do it and kept putting it off.<BR/><BR/>hotch--yes, the lying and the dissolution of my ignorant bliss were gut wrenching (or wretching?). the last two nights were so tense and i just wanted to scream. i thought for 1/2 a second about cancelling her sleepover tomorrow night, but we just couldn't do that. thanks for listening!creative kerfufflehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08645362903422740070noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14290006.post-45942532073763568252009-01-15T17:52:00.000-05:002009-01-15T17:52:00.000-05:00That sick feeling you have when you know your kid ...That sick feeling you have when you know your kid has to own up to something when really, truly you want to swoop in and make it better? I have been. there.<BR/><BR/>The elder, never. She has always had her school shit together. The younger? OH brother, the yelling, cajoling, threatening, withholding, blah blah blah all through middle school. This lasted until just recently when he realized he was dicking around with his future ability to move.out. <BR/><BR/>The not doing school work, annoying and frustrating. But, the lying in my eyes is much more devastating. When something like this happens, I hate the tension in the house, the sick feeling that I have failed, and I just wonder how much else have I been lied to about and believed? I think back to before I knew about the failure and the blissful ignorance. <BR/><BR/>I think homework lockdown is a great idea until trust is regained, and believe me, it is not a parenting fail. It is part of being a parent to a TWEENER. <BR/><BR/>Oh, and the week of her big partay...man I would have gotten pissed and threatened to yank that (but never would have done it, and thusly ruined my credability more).<BR/><BR/>Good for you, hanging in! Oh, and my elder asked if she could come home for the weekend because her roommate is being "mean". good. grief.Hotch Potcheryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13205620637311970766noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14290006.post-15000479234378196472009-01-15T17:21:00.000-05:002009-01-15T17:21:00.000-05:00You didn't fail. I would have done EXACTLY what y...You didn't fail. I would have done EXACTLY what you did. To the letter. At some point our kids have to take responsibility for their actions and we have to step back and allow them to do that. Maybe she'll learn a lesson. Maybe not. If she doesn't, this will happen again and she'll see the results in her grades.<BR/>She is bright and hopefully this was a wake up call. It was best that you didn't allow her to take the day off to finish it; then she'll get the idea that if she procrastinates she'll get to do that every time. Maybe she was testing how far she could go with you and her teacher; now she knows what she can and can't get away with.<BR/>Email me if you want to chat more. I'm right there with you!Kristin....https://www.blogger.com/profile/04577486067704642675noreply@blogger.com